Intermezzo

Ok, why not taking a break, from marriage, from unfullfilled relationship-tries, and instead visit some of the distractions on the internet?

There are plenty of such distractions for pathetic loosers like me. And here I want to point to one of these distractions which - with broadband access - has the potential to replace traditional relationships: live video-chat with women.

The principle of these sites is: women (or guys, if someone prefers), sit in front of their computer, usually very "lightly dressed", a camera captures their image, and they talk in chat fashion with guests or members. Now, I had never been to such chats, assuming that these would be quite a rip-off, expensive, and, well, "artificial". But I discovered a few weeks ago that these chats are actually for free, and that women there are quite natural and chat freely.

The business principle behind these sites: standard chat is for free. If the guest does not participate, then after about 2 minutes a timout occurs, and the user has again to enter the chat. If the user participates in the chat, then the timout clock seems to be reset, so that one can stay there actually indefinitely, keeping talking (typing with the keyboard). In order to have a "private chat", a one-on-one with a possible striping (or mode advances stuff), the user has to become a member (is free, requires credit card), and is then charged for the private at a minimum of $1.49 per minute. This is why the "performers" do this: they get a cut of this money, and seem to make quite a living. At least in the Eastern European area: most of the women are from Russia, Ukraine, or other Eastern European countries. They do it to make a living, which seems to be quite difficult in those economies.

So when I was there for the first time, I considered this as a "playground" to exercise some basic flirt techniques. Some of the guests abuse the privilege of anonymity to let off obscenities and derogatory comments, but several of the guests (including me) exhibit courtesy and actually talk with the women there in a reasonable way. And the women there actually respond well! Ok, some of them are only interested in getting the guys into "private chats" so that they earn some money. However, some of the women just enjoy being there and talking to complete strangers. And, as life happens, I actually befriended one, and now I do have another woman friend in my growing array of non-relationship women in my life. We exchanged a few emails, and I know now things about here which she does never mention in her chat.

The largest site seems to be LiveJasmin, which has a mirror site with a different interface at LivePrivates. There is also another smaller site JOYourself, where a smaller number of performers are (these are actuallty mostly the same as on these other two sites).


So to you guys who would want to see a few beautiful women and enjoy conversation: visit these site, but remember to be courteous to the women and not to abuse them verbally. They are just doing their job, to make a living, so do not make that job unbeaarble for them.

And you, wives and girlfriends, you should visit those sites too, to learn what the men in your life dream about. Maybe you can get some pointers from there, on how to spice up your relationship a bit..., and maybe you even find your significant other there among the begging guests... :)

These kind of sites will eventually lead to an erosion of the real relationships. Who needs the hazzle of a real-life relationship, if the most essential things can be found on these sites? No complicated courting, no desperation, just beautiful women, presented on a menu, and ready to flirt. And if one has enough, one can just leave the site, no harm done, and can continue with real life alone - can always come back later, some other time.

And this whole prospect of the future of relationship is actually quite sad...