Me and women
I think I do have a much too romantizised view of love and relationship. This could be, because as a child I often watched those movies from the 40s and 50s... with their decency, and the happy endings of relationship and courting. Somehow I have incorporated the sentiments of those movies into my attitude towards women.
I have been in love as far as I can think back, even as a child. I was in love with girls in my 1st grade in school. Throughout my school years, there was always some girl with whom I had fallen in love. And of course for a child, this is not really appropriate - so I hid it. Then, during adolescence when it became actually appropriate, I continue to hide it, being embarrassed to show my affection. It took quite some effort until I was able to make that transition into real relationships. My shyness caused me great pain, as several times I was not able to win the heart of the adored girl. But finally I succeeded. However, my romantic view of relationships made me very monogamous. Other guys had girls left and right... but I always stayed with the girl with whom I was at the time - even if my love had gone lost. And this happened a few times, and I was quite shocked about that: that love sometimes just disappears, and an empty relationship remains. Because I did not want to hurt the girl's feeling, I stayed with her, despite that my love for her had gone. When I finally found the courage to terminate that relation, it felt so bad at that time - but I never regretted that termination. Somehow I am in the same situation now, regarding my marriage. Situations never seem to change, everything repeats itself...
I fell in love quite rarely. But when it happened, I instantly knew it, and there was nothing I could do against it. During the decay of my marriage, I fell in love with other women twice. But nothing happened... since I was married, those women kept at distance.
And now, during the actual physical separation from my wife, I fell again in love. Seems to happen only every 6 years or so...
Well, I will carry on somehow.
If anyting happens regarding this story, I will update the blog here. Otherwise I will be silent - and this story will stand as a remainder of male stupidity. Well, of my stupidity.